Day 11: Thursday, July 16, 10

*ONCE AGAIN APOLOGIES FOR THE LATE POST!!*

AGENDA:
-Building Relationships Questions
-Key Concepts
-Break
-Conflict Intervention
-Family/Community Interview

BUILDING RELATIONSHIPS QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS:

Q1: How can adults help children and youth feel valued?

A1: Give specific positive and constructive feedback; ask them "what is value?"; come down to their level; provide opportunities for participation and leadership; find out their individual needs; highlight individuality/cultures; clear guidelines and rules; public recognition

Q2: Are relationships with adults and youth different from adults and children? How? Why?

A2: Youth: challenge adults; "think they already know"; challenge why anyone wants to get to know them or shut down completely; allow to learn from mistakes (opportunities to fail within reason); imply or act like they don't want attention; always suspicious

Children: more open to listen; asks questions and is curious; has "no filter"/shares information; must have a constant barrier/set of rules; voice request of attention "Look at me!"; eager and excited

Q3: How can you turn a negative relationship between a child/youth and adult into a positive one?

A3: Ask why/get their perspective (get to know their background/origin of negativity); be present & be consistent; weave personal expression/emotions into an activity; get leverage from other students to support; don't push too hard; reciprocate; "do unto others as you will have them do unto you"

KEY CONCEPTS:

☆ Develop caring and supportive environment
-youth feel supported
-youth feel "known"
-encouragement

☆ Presence of POSITIVE adult relationship is the LEARNING FACTOR OF YOUTH becoming healthy, productive adults

☆ Relationship building means that young people:
- experience emotional/physical support from adults/peers
- experience guidance from adults
- build knowledge from adults/peers

☆ As youth develop a sense of group membership, they are more likely to attend regularly and participate more fully in the program.

☆ Most learning is in social context- "social capitalism also"

☆ Refer to reading: Chapter 4 in CNYD Youth Development Guide ENCOURAGING RELATIONSHIP BUILDING:
- Pg. 60-61 How you know if you're program is encouraging relationship building...
- Pg. 62-63 Encouraging Relationship Building In Your ASP (dark blue, bold subheadings)

☆ STAFF: Support each other; low staff to youth ratio

LAST THOUGHT(S):

- Social Capitalism: being able to communicate in all areas; gaining vocabulary, social diversity; allow for easy transitions and adaptation to whatever environment; being able to help navigate different areas/social events etc

-Family/Community Interview due Thursday, July 22, 10- shorter assignment (questions will be put on next post)

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